This book demonstrates through theory, examples, and exercises how our unconscious interpretations and beliefs affect our relationships. We see how we are aligned with being an innocent victim, thus making our partner, loved ones, and friends largely responsible for our feelings and behaviors.
More specific topics include: why we choose our partner; the meaning of the begging-bowl syndrome; the origins of control issues and what we can do about them; the clear difference between genuine love and addictive attachments; how sexual issues reflect our emotional conflicts; the tendency to repeat compulsively self-sabotaging patterns of behavior; the illusion of reforming our partner; and how to take responsibility for ourselves.
How we feel about our partner is a reflection of our own relationship with ourself. This book shows you how to repair this relationship with ourself, thereby helping to improve our relationship with our partner.
The full story of relationship conflict and disharmony goes much deeper than gender differences. We need to understand ourselves, our common human nature, and how and why we feel and think the way we do.
This book shows us how our emotional perceptions and interpretations influence our attitudes and behaviors, and it reveals where those interpretations come from in our past. It has been comforting to believe that other people are responsible for how we feel and behave, but that belief has created a nation of victims amid the carnage of broken relationships.
This book provides the most comprehensive understanding available of relationship dynamics. It is intended primarily to solve problems in romantic relationships but its principles also apply to friendships, as well as to work and to family relationships.
Achieving peace with others involves a breakthrough in understanding why our relationships are not working and why we feel defeated, neglected, and dissatisfied.